When a Mom Starts a Book Club
The tale of one extra woman and how she reclaimed some adult time
Please allow me to set the stage. I am NOT the typical person that would set up a book club, or at least in my head I’m not. Roughly ten days ago I had MPFL reconstructive surgery which has landed me all but housebound for the next two months. Fast forward to yesterday when I decided that a) I need something to keep my brain in play because being on facebook for 7 hours a day is not okay b) I want to find a way to socialize as simply myself and not just Dominic’s mom c) I want to force people to come over my house and d) I want an excuse to throw a theme party.
Now that all of that has been clarified… Yesterday I was mindlessly scrolling through social media and saw an ad for a book. A lightbulb in my brain went off, “When was the last time you actually read a book that wasn’t to or about children?”. Ask yourself the same question, I’ll wait. It’s been forever right? Moving on…I obviously clicked on the ad, because curiosity killed the cat and all of that nonsense, which led me to some internet book club monthly book nonsense, needless to say I did not sign up. The book club seed was planted.
I read up on the book the ad was plugging and it looked AWESOME (seriously check it out/or pre order it here). I immediately preordered it, because I’m a compulsive shopping nightmare. Then I thought to myself….Self, why don’t you start your own book club?
The birth of the book club:
After my inner monologue was complete, I messaged my sister wives and asked them if they were interested as well as posting to my personal fb page. Five women were interested in my little club and the BBC (bitches book club- yes everything I do is extra) was born. My simple suggestion is put someone detail oriented in charge of the initial planning, as it is simple if you can keep everyone’s shit together.
If you are planning on starting you own book club it’s as easy as 1 2 3….
Find a book, author, and/or genre that you are interested in or passionate about to create a “feel” of your club.
Reach out to people you know, ask them to do the same (try to keep it to people who are easy to get along with, because let’s face it, sometimes women can be awful)
Pick a consecutive day/time that everyone can agree on to meet (this may be the most difficult part)
And then boom you have yourself a book club.
What happens at book club stays at book club:
I decided that the BBC will be not only just a good excuse to use the brain cells that have been screaming to be used as of late, but also a getaway for me and my friends. As a mother it’s incredibly hard to turn off, to shut down, to be something other than someone’s mother, someone’s partner.
There’s a part of you that seems to have disappeared from your psyche. Which is why there is only one rule in the BBC, no babies. No baby talk, no mom hacks, no mom stories, no baby nonsense will seep into these few hours. We all planned to set aside a few hours on the third Wednesday of the month to meet and just be women, friends, and yes readers.
Creating the first meeting:
I am probably the most “extra” out of all of my friend groups. Being extra is something that comes quite easy. Therefore, if the bookclub is happening, the bookclub is mine, the bookclub will be extra…obviously. WTF does this have to do with anything? I am so glad that you asked….
Once the book, date, and time were chosen I immediately took to Etsy. I found several things to create the feeling of an actual club, because if you’re going to do something do it the most lol. After searching online (as I mentioned I’m bed bound so I have a LOT of free time lately)I’ve found book decor for the meeting as well as certain drinks/snacks and music to play.
If you’re looking for simple ways to make hosting a book club special, check here.
Okay we’re together, now what?:
You’re was surrounded by other women who also loved to read so we had something in common, but more than that, if you’re hosting the meeting you should have a set of book discussion questions and a few conversation starters prepared in advance. Engaging the group basically brings everyone together in a way that will really made the club click. Having great book discussion questions is essential to leading a successful book club, and now that I am in charge of my own I use this to avoid any awkward silences while also creating a lively, engaging book club meeting each month.
Does your book club need a little help in creating conversation?
FINDING GREAT BOOK DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
Using generic book club questions:
MY FAVORITE BOOK CLUB QUESTIONS
Let me know what you/your book club is reading in comments!